The 10-Step System That Helps First-Time Parents Feel Calm, Confident, and In Control—Together
Hey friend,
You’re not just trying to “get through” labor—you want to own it.
You want a birth that feels calm, supported, and maybe even beautiful. But between TikTok horror stories, endless opinions, and “just go with the flow” advice… it’s hard to know where to start.
That’s exactly why we created a simple but powerful system to help first-time parents (and their partners!) prepare for a confident, connected birth—together.
We call it our 10-Step System to a Calm and Confident Birth—and I’m giving you a peek inside.
Below are 4 of the 10 steps we walk through in our free class. If you like what you see, you can save your seat at the end and get the full framework + workbook to guide your prep. 💛
Let’s go.
1. Move With Intention (Not Just When Labor Starts)
Most people wait until labor to “start moving.” But truth is, your movement now is already shaping how things unfold later.
Intentional, gentle movement during pregnancy can:
Help baby settle into the best position
Relieve pelvic pain and backaches
Reduce the risk of complications
Support smoother labor progress
Inside our course, we show you how to open the pelvis in a way that matches each stage of labor—so your body is prepped and your baby has space to move down and out.
Quick tip: Try sitting criss-cross apple sauce on the floor or spending time on a birth ball each day to help keep your hips open and flexible. Add a little sway on the birth ball while you’re at it. 😉
2. Speak Up With Calm Confidence
You don’t need a medical degree to advocate for your birth.
You do need tools that help you speak clearly, ask informed questions, and stay grounded under pressure.
This step is where we flip the script on passive patient mode and give you:
Reframe phrases for sticky moments
Sample dialogues to help you set boundaries (without sounding combative)
Ways to get on the same page with your birth team before you’re in labor
Try this at your next appointment:
“Can you walk me through the risks, benefits, and alternatives to that recommendation?”
This simple phrase opens the door to informed, collaborative care.
3. Choose a Provider Who Honors Your Birth Goals
Your provider isn’t just someone with credentials—they’re someone you’re trusting to walk with you through one of life’s most sacred moments.
This step is all about:
Knowing the difference between red flags and growth opportunities
Understanding your options (OB? Midwife? Doula? Hospital? Birth center?)
Feeling safe and seen with the people supporting you
And yes—you’re absolutely allowed to switch providers if you need to. (It’s not “too late.”)
Need help figuring out what type of provider is right for you?
Check out this guide on how to choose the right birth attendant for you to get clarity before your next appointment.
✨ Good question to ask in your next visit:
“How do you typically support unmedicated birth?”
If the answer sounds vague or dismissive, it might be time to explore your options.
4. Labor 101: Know What’s Actually Normal
Let’s be real. Most of us enter labor with zero clue what’s actually going on in our bodies.
You might wonder:
“Is this contraction pattern normal?”
“Am I progressing?”
“Why am I shaking/vomiting/falling apart emotionally right now?”
This step gives you the full download:
The 3 stages of labor, broken down in plain language
What’s normal (like shaking during transition) and what’s not
When to go to the hospital to prevent your labor from slowing down
What your partner should be watching for so they feel confident too
Here’s the truth:
Understanding how labor works takes away so much fear. You stop wondering if something is wrong and start recognizing that… this is your body doing exactly what it was designed to do.
Want the Full 10-Step System?🎁
If these 4 steps got you thinking, you’ll love our free class:
It’s a powerful (and totally free) birth prep training that walks you through:
Our complete 10-step framework
Real stories from students who’ve used it
A behind the scenes look of how we guide couples to confident, natural birth inside Our BirthRoom Academy
✨ [Click here to save your seat now] ✨
Come as you are—no prior prep required.
Final Thoughts 💛
Friend, confidence isn’t something you magically feel when labor begins.
It’s something you build—step by step, together.
Let’s replace fear with faith. Panic with preparation. Uncertainty with a plan.
Because the birth of your dreams doesn’t start at 40 weeks—it starts today.
You ready?
